Day #42 - #51

22 Feb, Friday through Mar 3, Sunday

Yeah been slacking. Been busy. Life getting in the way of blogging. That and a slew of other excuses that are frivolous. Flat out, didn't blog, okay, next thing.

Bad mom: kid is still dancing while going to physical therapy. On late dance nights she isn't eating dinner. I didn't check her homework a few nights even though I said I would. Let the kid do additional dance classes to prep for dance team tryout, as if she doesn't have enough to do. Banned the kid from any more extracurricular activities due to upcoming dance recital.

Good mom: did check the kid's homework on other nights and helped as needed. Played chauffeur to the kids hectic schedule. Fixed her lunches. Fixed her breakfasts. Taught her how to make soap scrubs. Almost finished a stuffed animal for her. Helped her make felt stuffed animals.

Proud mom: all 'A' progress report, doing well in dance team practice, coping well with a 'D' on a homework assignment, hasn't been caught acting up at school, does stuff around the house without copping to much of an attitude, and she is grateful for what she has in life.

Phew!

Day #41

February 21, 2013

Bad mom: kid stayed late at dance, didn't get home until after 9:00, went to bed well past her bedtime, and ate pretzels, yogurt and Mt Dew for dinner.

Good mom: kid's private lesson was to work on stretching, proper form, and more stretching so she doesn't hurt herself

Proud mom: kid finished all her homework before dance class

Amused and perplexed

Kid had to do a peer review of her essay. One of the boys saw her at her paintball party and knows the kid is "rough and tumble" whereas he was playing paintball and was worried about ruining his shoes. Another kid was just a tool and critiqued her use of commas. The third boy told her that she was basically full of crap. She pointed out that he didn't do the assignment correctly and that he failed at being "Asian". Considering that she is an all around American mutt, I suppose that she can get away with saying that. Then again, she calls some people Wazzes... White asses. I don't know if she is being racist, politically incorrect, or making a mockery of herself...

Day #40

20 Feb 2013

Bad mom: gave kid doughnuts for an afternoon snack

Good mom: got the kid her dance bag before class started

Proud mom: kid is learning time management skill with regards to her homework

Day #39

19 Feb 13

Bad mom: laughed at the kid today. She got hit on the head at school and one of her friends said that she was growing a unicorn horn.

Good mom: let kid eat almost all of the green beans with her dinner.

Proud mom: kid rewrote her essay on firearms and weaponry.

Day #38

18 Feb 2013

Bad mom: boycotted anything productive

Good mom: fixed kid biscuits and gravy for brunch

Proud mom: kid did her dance stretches, reviewed her dances and did her PT exercises

Day #37

17 Feb 2013

Bad mom: sent kid and hubby to see Identity Thief

Good mom: finished laundry

Proud mom: kid finished homework to see movie

Day #36

16 Feb, 2013
Saturday
Sleep deprived

Bad mom: told the kid we might see "Identity Thief" this weekend. Not exactly appropriate, but whatever.

Good mom: took kid to dance class in the AM and let her stay afterward so she didn't have to go grocery shopping.

Proud mom: kid got her archery set adjusted... And wants to hunt rabbits and squirrels with it. *sigh* last week she wanted to dove hunt with her .410

Day #35

Friday, 15 Feb 2013

Bad mom: allowed kid to wear tapered jeans to school. Kid got her "jeans day" and "no uniform reward days" revoked until Spring Break.

Good mom: took kid to store and had her try on lots of jeans and took pictures. Kid dances, she has big legs, today's jeans are made for kids with stick legs. Yeah, the all look "tight" on her, there's no way around it. Emailed the teacher and then talked to her. Situation resolved!

Proud mom: kid actually tried to start a petition to get rid of school uniforms.

Day #34

14 Feb 13

Happy Valentines Day!

Bad mom: didn't send kid to school with candy and cards for her class.

Good mom: let kid slide on homework with the requirement that it would get done in the morning

Proud mom: kid said "thank you" for homework help

Day #33

13 Feb 13

Bad mom: I am glad that math team is done. That is one thing that I don't have to take time off from work!

Good mom: rescheduled the kid's dental appointment so she can go to the school dance.

Proud mom: baby girl understands her choices and the commitment necessary to achieve her goals.

Day #32

February 12, 2013

Bad mom: life is a blur. Trying to recall events of that day... Oh yeah, kiddo fell in a mud puddle at PE. I didn't dry out her soaking wet shoes. She's still pissed at me about that.

Good mom: nothing spectacular. I work, am a mom, and a spouse. Made the kid's lunch, fixed dinner, chauffeured the kid, helped with homework, all the normal things associated with being a parent,

Proud mom: every day I am proud of my baby girl. She does so much, gets good grades, helps out at home, helps her friends, volunteers her time, raises money for the local pet shelter, and she expects nothing in return.

Day #31

11 Feb 2013

Bad mom: realized that my kid doesn't get an allowance or get paid for good grades. I guess she just has to suck it up and do what is expected of her.

Good mom: discussed the requirements for her to do 3 gun competitions, and what will be expected of her,

Proud mom: kid "aced" her prealgebra quiz

Day #30

Feb 10, 2013

Bad mom: made kid finish additional math worksheets

Good mom: made kid's lunch the night before

Proud mom: kid wants to do 3 gun competitions

Day #29

Feb. 9, 2013

Bad mom: dragged kid all over the place, took her to look at guns and bought her the compound bow that she's been wanting.

Good mom: took kid shoe shopping for new dress uniform shoes. After much frustration and several stores she finally found some.

Proud mom: kid took care of her homework before playing CoD.

Day #28

8 Feb 2013, Friday

Bad mom: let kid have doughnuts for breakfast. A LOT of doughnuts. More doughnuts than four adults should have.

Good mom: picked up kid late from the teen center so she could take a break and play with her friends.

Proud mom: kid put away her clean clothes without being told.

Day #27

2/7/2013

Bad mom: told the kid that she wasn't doing her private dance lesson because she had homework

Good mom: worked with kid past her bedtime to finish homework

Proud mom: kid said "thank you for the help" when she went to bed

Bad mom of the day award...

Goes to me!!!! Sent this to the kid who loved it!

Day #26

6 Feb 2013

Bad mom: fed kid a huge blue raspberry icee and sent her to school with a cup o noodle for lunch

Good mom: listened to her complain about school drama

Proud mom: kid was willing to stand by a friend to tell a teacher about inappropriate happenings at school

Day #25

5 Feb 2013

Bad mom: let kid have a frappacino in her lunch

Good mom: had the answers for the kid's initial physical therapy appointment

Proud mom: kid thought it but didn't say that a classmate was a "dumbass"

Day #26

2/4/13

Bad mom: let kid pack Flips and Muddy Buddies in her lunch

Good mom: loaded minecraft on kid's net book and finally patched it

Proud mom: kid is a geek in training

Day #25

Sunday, 3 Feb 2013

Bad mom: let kid shoot skeet today

Good mom: watched the Super Bowl with the kid

Proud mom: kid was very disappointed with Beyonce's performance.

Day #24

2 Feb 2013 - Groundhog Day

Bad mom: made kid get up early for dance class and didn't believe her "tummy hurt"

Good mom: explained to kid about responsibilities and obligations

Proud mom: kid is doing great at dance and drum

Introspection

This blog started out as a mockery of society and what deems "good" parenting and "bad" parenting. It has been somewhat cathartic for me since it has made me focus more on my child and our relationships and made me more aware of how glad I am to have my daughter.

Day #23

1 Feb 2013

Bad mom: dinner was late due to me playing minecraft and kid playing black ops 2.

Good mom: at least I got dinner made!

Proud mom: kid busted out all of her homework so she could shoot skeet on Sunday

Day #22

31012013

Bad mom: let kid play with the breakfast that she said she didn't want but really did. Totally hilarious!

Good mom: emailed her math teacher about concern about methodologies and concepts. Positive feedback from the teacher, so YAY!

Proud mom: kid is just AWESOME! :)

Day #21

30 Jan 2013

Bad mom: Ripped into kid for interrupting people while they were talking perform a hostile conversation takeover.

Made kid eat dinner after she finished her homework and she just wanted to go to bed.

Good mom: nothing spectacular comes to mind...

Proud mom: kid caught onto how much she interrupts, catches herself when she does, and apologizes and waits until there is an opening to speak.

Day #21 lunch

Jalapeño havarti, New York cheddar, dry Italian salami, pretzel crackers, grapes, and strawberries.

Day #20

January 29, 2013
Bad mom: couldn't do simple math when helping kid with homework; we both were coming up with different answers and neither one was correct. Thank goodness for calculator apps!

Good mom: tried to help kid with homework even though we both failed :)

Proud mom: kid is willing to help out when needed without being huffy about it,

Day #20 Lunch

Lunch: hawaiian rolls with lemon pepper chicken and havarti cheese. Grapes, strawberries, and carrots on the side. Kid is a foodie and likes Boar's Head the best. *sigh*

Duh...

Kid is looking through the sunroof as we are driving.
Kid: Are the clouds moving or are we?

LMAO!

Day #19

28 Jan 2013
Bad mom: laughed at the kid for her "brain dead" moments
Good mom: helped kid with homework
Proud mom: kid tries to do right in this world

Day #18

27 Jan 2013
Bad mom: let kid fend for herself for food
Good mom: played minecraft with kid
Proud mom: kid finished homework without being told

Day #17

Julian date 026 year 2013
Bad mom: got kid a honey bun and caramel frappacino
Good mom: got kid face wash
Proud mom: kid is on the A honor roll for the semester

Day #16

025 2013

Bad mom: bought eyeliner for the kid
Good mom: went through the trauma of buying bras for the kid
Proud mom: kid feels empathy for a friend in a low spot

Sarcastic mom: gave the kid a hard time and joked about giving her crap if she got a "B" on her report card. Kid sassed back stating that she was on the principals list for the quarter and on the A honor roll for the first semester. *sigh*

Day #15

Jan 24, 2013
Bad mom: kid got fast food for dinner
Good mom: packed kid a healthy lunch
Proud mom: kid didn't participate in the "me me me me" behavior of the other kids in dance class

Day #15 lunch

Taco meat, lettuce, and cheese. Not pictured is tortilla chips and guacamole.

Day #14

1/23/13
Bad mom: forced kid to break from homework to eat dinner
Good mom: chauffeured kid from math team to dance class
Proud mom: kid is ahead on her homework for this week

Day 14 lunch

Lemon pepper roasted chicken with New York cheddar sammiches, strawberries, blueberries, and carrots

Day #13

Julian date 022, year 2013
Bad mom: threatened to pop the kid for neurotic behavior for being late to school
Good mom: took kid to the doctor for her knee issue, immunizations, referral, and x-rays done
Proud mom: got home to find kid and dad working on kid's homework

Child quote

Awesome kid quote "I will never be a blonde! I will ALWAYS be a disgrace to brunettes!"

Day #12

21 Jan 2013
Bad mom: did nothing
Good mom: did nothing
Proud mom: kid did nothing

Day #11

20 Jan 2013
Bad mom: let kid shoot firearms
Good mom: made sure kid was fed prior to festivities
Proud mom: kid was mature around the firearms and seriously killed some skeet

Day #10

Jan 19, 2013
Bad mom: let kid have a caramel mocha
Good mom: took kid to dance and drum lessons
Proud mom: kid finished homework without being told

Day #9

Friday, 18 Jan 2013
Bad mom: let kid play first person shooting games
Good mom: tried to find uniform items for kid
Proud mom: kid helped clean up around the house without being told

Much busyness

Running a few days behind here...

Day #8

17 Jan 2013
Bad mom: gave kid Cheetos for snack
Good mom: fixed kid an omelet for breakfast
Proud mom: kid was okay with getting a "B" on a prealgebra test

Oops

I really should have paid better attention to what I was doing. Having numbered days that are off from the calendar date is really confusing!

Day #7

16 Jan 2013
Bad mom: let kid dance in heeled tap shoes with a bum knee
Good mom: stocked up on ibuprofen for kid to take before dance class
Proud mom: kid knows her limits and took a break when her knee started to really hurt in dance class

Lunch for day #6

Day #6

Julian date 015, year 2013
Bad Mom: Let kid play Black Ops 2
Good Mom: Packed kid a healthy lunch
Proud Mom: Kid finished her homework in record time

Day #5

14 Jan 2013
Bad mom: got kid a mint chocolate chip milkshake and Cadbury egg
Good mom: made kid breakfast before leaving for work
Proud mom: kid stepped in and covered dance class until the teacher showed up due to an emergency

Day #4

Sunday the thirteenth, there must be something ominous on the date. Anyways...

Bad mom: Allowed kid to play black ops 2
Good mom: Prepped stuff for kid lunches for the week
Proud mom: Kid wanted to come home early from a sleepover to finish homework and get an early start on next week's assignments

Day #3

12 January 2013
Bad mom: got kid an iced caramel macchiato
Good mom: made sure kid was fed before dropping her off at a friend's house
Proud mom: kid bought friend's little brother a toy

On Guns

Gun control discussion aside; kid has been shooting her 10/22 for several years now. The next logical progression rifle for her was the M4. Yes, it is deemed a "tactical assault rifle", but the weight, recoil, and accuracy were the determining factors for the firearm. So now she is improving her target shooting skill with her M4. Do I feel like a bad mom for permitting this? No, but I am sure that there are plenty of people out there that would consider me to be a "bad parent".

Day #2

Gregorian calendar date: 11 Jan 2013
Bad mom: packed a Mountain Dew white out in the kid's lunch and stopped and got doughnuts for breakfast
Good mom: got doughnuts for the kid
Proud mom: kid wanted to get doughnuts for her teachers

Day #1

Julian calendar date: 010 year 2013
Bad mom entry: Kid had Wendy's for dinner.
Good mom entry: Helped kid with pre-algebra homework.
Proud mom entry: Kid helper dance teacher with errands and babysat

For my prima

I tire of the gun control arguments, blaming guns, video games, Internet and whatever else, the anti-obesity initiatives, public education failures, and other random BS. My kid shoots firearms and respects them as a weapon. She also plays black ops 2, battlefield, halo, and other first person shooting games. She watches criminal minds, csi, bbt, an ncis. She's 12. She eats fast food. She has a smartphone and in social networking. She is also fit, in advanced classes, straight A's, math team, dances, and plays full kit drum. She actively supports the local non-profit shelter. The main thing is that she knows the difference between fiction and reality. She is aware of her responsibilities and is grateful for the things that she has. She doesn't abuse her privileges.

Yes, I check her phone, I know what she is doing. I also let her make mistakes. I know her teachers: I try and stay involved in her activities, but I don't infringe. She has to learn from her own experiences an mistakes, I can't do that for her.

So to all the people blaming someone or something else, look to yourself first. What are you doing as a parent, friend, neighbor, or coworker to help prevent anything that is "newsworthy"?